The rate of divorce is becoming so alarming that we need to examine its causes and how to curtail it.
1. *Ignorance* - What you do not know about marriage destroys it more dan anything. Ignorance is the mother of foolishness and foolishness, is the number one enemy of progress. When we fail to learn about marriage and how to make it work, we make a mess of it.
2. *Unforgiving spirit.*
Offence must come. There is no way two different people can relate without offending each other at one time or the other. When offensive issues come up you must learn to forgive. Lack of forgiveness is a killer of marriage.
3. *Infidelity and adultry* - These twin evils have destroyed many homes. They have brought tears, sorrow, regret, worry, guilty, sickness, heartache to many couples.
4. *Always thinking about yourSelf.*
Self is a great destroyer of good marriage. Self is the founder of selfishness, emanating from pride and Ignorance. Self wants to be thanked always for everything done well but do not see any reason why he should thank anybody for anything.
5. *Intolerance* .
Inability to listen and consider opinion of others can degenerate into despising the other person and even lead to hatred.
6. *Personality Clash.*
A man and his wife are supposed to be complementary, not competitive.
Though the man is in the position of power, authority, decision making and leadership, he must love his wife and avoid being a dictator while the woman is in the position of dependence and influence; she is a helper and adviser.
7. *Wrong Use of s3x* - God made s3x to be a tool of pleasure and joy for a couple. But the devil has turned it into a tool for the destruction of homes. There are wrong conception about s3x that have ruined the marriage of many. A woman must not use s3x as a weapon of punishment. We should know that our body does not belong to us. s3x is good and godly within marriage
(1 cor. 7:1-5) s3x should build and not destroy marriage